How to Effectively Use a Self-Talk Strategy: New Research Findings Will Surprise You

Self-talk has been used by athletes for years for the purpose of controlling emotions and bringing focus back to task. Short phrases expressed in a positive present tense help to alleviate normal performance pressures. “I can do it,” or “I am in the zone” are typical self-talk statements that are commonly expressed to bring attention to the task at hand. They are short, straight to the point, and easy to remember.

But, did you know that expressing a self-talk statement in the second or third person may actually improve its effectiveness? In a recent observation, psychologist Ethan Kross noticed that a self-talk expressed in a second or third person (you or he/she), instead of in first person (I), creates further cognitive clarity and an emotional distance from the person expressing such a statement. In other words, expressing a self-talk that does NOT start with “I”, but rather a second or third person, helps to not only regain focus for the task at hand, but also to push away the emotional response linked to expressing such a self-talk.

Dr. Kross noticed that when LeBron James was explaining his frustration, he referred to it as, “I wanted to do what was best for LeBron James, and to do what makes LeBron James happy.” Just listening to how he talked, it seemed as if he was talking to another person also named LeBron James. The way LeBron James expressed his frustration allowed for the creation of an emotional distance between his own upsetting words and its understandable emotional reaction. He was able to remain calm and collected while talking about an upsetting experience. A self-talk used in a second or third person lessens the emotional connection of the words being expressed.

In an article written by Weintraub, she explains that the benefits of this style of self-talk are engrained in a communication pattern used during our early developmental stages. When toddlers play with their imaginary friends, it is quite common that they engage in a dual verbal interaction. Toddlers typically provide words to their imaginary friends for the sake of continuing the playing engagement. For example, little John is playing with his trains and says something like: “Now, we put that train there and then we can push it to the end, but do not start yet, ok?”

Unbeknown to the toddler, at a very early age, he/she is starting to develop a coping skill that sooths the playing experience and saves him/herself from the stress of playing by him/herself. The early brain, which is in its prime stage to develop long-term memory, stores these engaging and soothing experiences, which may be retrieved in adulthood. Beck, a child psychologist, believes that early self-talks elicit neural connections in the emotional area of our brains, which lead to lifelong learning while enhancing soothing responses.

Even as adults, we can still express upsetting emotions in second or third person and not feel the concurrent distress. For example, a tennis player feels quite nervous as he is about to play an opponent who is ranked much higher than he is. His palms are sweating, he is short of breath, and his heart is pounding quite fast. At this moment, he would greatly benefit from using this style of self-talk to soothe his nerves. He may say something like: “John, you have trained very hard and put a lot of effort to make it this far; go out there and give it your best try. It does not matter if you win or lose. Just enjoy this great playing opportunity.”

This style of self-talk invites a combination of calmness and concentration. The self-talk is still zeroed in on bringing the best out of his game and is presented in an optimistic and empowering chat. However, its content projects an emotional distance, which allows for clarity in his thinking and more calmness of his emotions.

Whether you are on a golf course, a tennis court, a soccer field, a running track or just about to give an oral presentation before many unknown people, remember that it is normal to feel nervous. Secondly, use a self-talk style that is expressed as if you were talking to yourself. And, thirdly, envision yourself having fun and successfully accomplishing your task.

Enjoy your summer and every opportunity you get to play your favorite sport!!

Alex Diaz, PhD
Sports Mental Edge®
www.sportsmentaledge.com

How to Find a Good Doctor and Surgeon

How to Find a Good Doctor and Surgeon

Rick Weinstein, MD, MBA

Director of Orthopedic Surgery

It is extremely important to make sure the doctor who takes care of you is a good doctor. You are entrusting him/her to either maintain your health or to get you back to good health. This is even more important when it comes to finding a good surgeon. You are entrusting this person to diagnose you correctly and then cut you open to fix something internally.

When choosing a doctor, I think the most important criteria is to make sure you have a person with whom you can have good relationship. It should be someone you trust and who you feel comfortable asking questions to. There are too many doctors who don’t make eye contact with their patients or can’t have a conversation with them. If this describes your doctor, go somewhere else! If your doctor spends more time looking at the computer than at you, go find someone else! Do you need to make an urgent appointment, and there is no availability for a few days? Then go somewhere else and find a doctor who values your time as much as his/her own.

How about a surgeon? How do you find a good one? First, ask your family, friends and co-workers who they have used and if they were happy. The best source for a surgeon is the doctors or nurses who work directly with the surgeon; if you can get their input, you are more likely to find a good surgeon. Does this surgeon work on amateur and professional athletes? If your medical doctor sends you to a surgeon, it may be just because he is required to recommend this surgeon as being part of the same practice. Ask your doctor if he has used this surgeon or would trust this surgeon to operate on his own family.

One of the best determinants of a good result for surgery is the number of procedures that surgeon performs. If he only does that procedure a few times per year, you are better off finding a doctor who practices more. Surgeons who do more of the procedure have fewer complications. Also, doctors who have to spend a lot of time performing a surgery because they are less experienced will require you to have more anesthesia, which leads to significantly more problems and complications.

The bottom line to finding a good doctor or good surgeon is to get references from reliable sources (friends, family, other doctors), to make sure you have a good relationship with the doctor, and to have faith in his/her abilities. You need a surgeon who is good at what he/she does, so make sure that surgeon has a lot of experience and performs a lot of that specific surgery.